no point worrying about something u cant control...
something came to mind and i have experienced this and also been on the other end of it and i guess people have done it before aswell. When you have doubts and worries about the things in life and the actions that your friends make because you care for them which makes you worry about their health, self being and their habits influenced by external factors.when you tell your friends about the experiences in life and to give them a bit of a warning to not try it as you have experienced it before and it wasnt a good thing and had realised it was a bad thing to do.
BUT
when you find out or when they confess to you that they done what you done in the past, you kinda have this feeling of emptyness and lose respect for them in a way but when they end up doin it and you dont know what to think of them anymore and you cant do anything else because its out of your control. How do you handle such a situation? well being their friend you dont do anything to help them, to tell them, to warn them about the possible outcomes of it i guess and it all comes from the lack of confidence u have for them as a friend and that they are able to do what ever they want and without me caring about it and take it and move on from it.
posted by Just Kwokka @ 9:04 PM
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I think you're right.
I think too often, we worry about things we have no control over.
Alot of us share our experiences with the ones we love because we wanna show them the mistakes we made, but sometimes people feel like they need to make that SAME mistake again to learn from it.
I know sometimes I do that too, but its kind of stupid. If you know its a mistake, why do you do it anyway? I guess its just human nature.
From the receiving end of it, you can only hope that they dont lose as much respect for themselves..
theres no point worrying about something you cant control.
uve done ur bit. just a matter of time to get other things. And as a friend keep encouraging them i say.
I'm just a worry wart in general. As much as I love my family, I have love for my closest friends.
I don't mind sharing my experiences and trying to give them the warning. People make mistakes I guess - it can't be helped?
But the only thing I hate when it comes to this situation in life is when one turns out to be a hypocrite. That's just unfair on everyone else. No one is perfect right? That's what I'm going through now...I'm not being a hypocrite but someone close to me is and it's causing so much drama between our friendship.
hello anon, sometimes people like to be guided in life and being able to teach life lessons is such a greatful thing to have as it can decide the choices u make in life. but when u have someone who is close to your heart to do this you would have that dark and shady feeling inside of ya. you know do it once and thats ok but keep it goin it will hurt u inside even more and more. BUt if its their life choice then let it be, who are you to give them anymore help. i have had friends who havent listened to others and evened up in critical situations such as hospitalisation and death. By my experience first hand at this i would ensure that i care for my friends and look out for them when possible.
I dont think its about being a hypocrite. I think what stems from this is the fact that you've been through this situation, and even though everyone goes through different life experiences, I think we learn enough from those closest to us that some things just arent right.
Being a hypocrite means you mention something but you go against yourself. It doesn't really suggest you've had any sort of experience in it at all.
anon, its also my point of view not yours. i dont think you have lived the life that i have lived in
ICONIC...I'm not saying what they do is a hypocrite...What I meant to say is that one of my close friends judges and criticise others for what they do wrong but when she does the same thing...what does it make her then? People calls her a hypocrite and I defend her but I'm at that point where I don't want to defend her anymore because she's like that...why?
Kwokka lol...that's for your personal opinion and it's not a personal attack on you :P
ANON yeah from your point of view i can see where you're getting at, its as if we've defied the point of bothering because some things never change.
Once again, they would have to go through the experience themselves to understand and learn from it. And once again, we're back at the mentality that.. theres no point worrying about something you cant control, because unfortunately no matter how much you stand up for your mate, it just doesn't seem like she's gonna learn till it hits her head on
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